“You don’t need anyone for Valentines. Just love yourself!”
With it being February everything turns to the month of love. Valentines. It becomes very hard for people who are single. Seeing valentines gifts and cards everywhere you turn is a very big trigger of unhappy times and thoughts. Whereas some celebrate each other this time I’m celebrating it myself!
I’ve now been single for over 6 months and I must say the first part of being single really upset me. If something good happened I felt I had no-one to share it with. I had nothing to look forward too. I had nothing to keep me going through the week knowing I’d be seeing someone special at the weekend. Being able to cuddle up to someone. My phone not getting many notifications from not texting someone constantly. All these are things are things you miss when you’re alone.
However, I’ve hit a point in my life that I’ve really felt I’ve needed. Something that I’ve not had in a long time and that is acceptance. Acceptance of the fact that I’m single. The fact that I’m focusing on myself and that’s okay. With lots of exciting things starting to happen I feel I don’t need someone to make me happy. I don’t need someone to channel my happiness. Now that I’ve finally understood that happiness isn’t defined by someone, this is when the true factor of working on myself begins.
I’m a wear your heart on your sleeve kind of boy. I’ve always fallen for people way too quickly. When in a relationship, I always love way too much. Which to some might been seen as a weakness but to me I’m just a person who loves to express how much I love that person.
Furthermore, Being single is no different. I’ve tried to express to myself how much I should love myself. Showcasing my love in the form of my blog, my Instagram, my love for my friends and family. Photography. Working out. These are all contributions leading me to become a happier person and not relying on someone to make me happy.
Just like myself, Fiona is going through the same thing. I made her a Palentines card to make sure she realises she’s not alone in this. I also made up a little hamper with candles, chocolates and a thank u next t-shirt to showcase my love for her. She’s really helped me get through this being single. She’s always there when I need her or a phone call away if I’m feeling down. Our adventures away most weekends have helped me look forward to the weekends just like I used too.
Throughout my time of being single, I have had times where I’ve felt so alone. That maybe I’m a problem for the reasons why my ex’s ended our relationships. That I’m just unlovable. That nobody wants me. But after a while, I sit back and realise these factors aren’t anything to do with me. The reason relationships in the past haven’t worked out is because of the other person in the relationship. Not me.
Realising all these things have helped me so much. Valentine’s Day is just one day of the year. I’m a person who believes you should tell someone every day just how much they mean to you. If it’s just a text. A small gesture. Anything. To make sure those people in your life who mean the most to you know they are loved. This world lacks just that. To be able to showcase that is one of the most powerful and strong things someone can do.
So go ahead, tell someone you love them. It doesn’t haven’t to be a partner. It could be anyone. Go stand in that mirror and tell yourself you love you. Go shower yourself with roses and chocolates. Treat yo self!